Welcome to Redefining Fuerza!
I'm so happy you found me in the vast system of the interwebs.
Finding the right therapist is just as hard, if not harder, than finding the right partner(s); thanks for making me part of your search! I think we all know at this point that finding a therapist that you can vibe** with is one of the key factors of success in therapy. To that end, I thought I would present some core values and beliefs right here on my home page.
So, in no particular order, here are some essentials about therapy at Redefining Fuerza :
You are the expert on your own life.
I am with you for one hour per week, on average. YOU are with you 24 hours per day, seven days per week. You know more about your experience than I do.
You get to tell me when I am way off the mark or when something doesn't align with your life or your needs. I have the education and training required to be a therapist AND therapy is a custom tailored process to each and every person; we will work together to find what works for you.
You get to define your own identity & labels (or lack of labels).
This applies to gender, sexuality, ethnicity, race, etc.
Strong preferences between bi- and pansexual? Dope. Use what feels right. Strong aversion to labeling your gender at all? Cool. No labels necessary; just let me know what language is helpful if we talk about it. Actively exploring what labels you love and hate? Great. I'm on the journey with you and we can continually check in about what is working or not.
Black Lives Matter.
If this sentence upsets you, odds are very high that you would not like me as a therapist.
This country was built on the backs of enslaved peoples and continues to rest on the physical and emotional labor of Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) to this day.
Sex work is work.
Again, if this sentence upsets you, we are likely incompatible.
Nothing exists in a vacuum.
Our relationships greatly influence our individual experiences and our individual experiences greatly influence our relationships.
Our environment shapes us both individually and relationally. We are all impacted by the various -isms at play in our society (e.g. racism, capitalism, sexism, classism, ableism, and more). We also actively perpetuate these systems every day.
Authenticity is key.
I enter a therapy space as myself: I dress how I want, depending on the energy I have that day; I use profanity consistently (and often without noticing); I crack jokes; and I rarely use that stereotypical ~therapist voice~ (you know the one I mean).
You get to enter therapy exactly as you are on any given day. Some days that may be really easy, and some days that may sound like the worst idea you've ever heard. I'm not interested in seeing the cute little 'everything's fine' mask that you have perfected with everyone else in your life; I want the real you, even on the days you don't. After all, how the hell can we address the struggle (let alone solve it) if we are hiding when it comes up?
Your body is yours.
I believe that everyone is entitled to decide what to do with their own body. This belief includes (and is not limited to):
access to abortions and other reproductive healthcare
gender-affirming surgeries [preferably without needing permission from clinicians]
BDSM/kink/all kinds of sexual acts between consenting adults
fat liberation and Health at Every Size (HAES).
Now that you have read all that... the choice is yours:
wanting to know more?
Go ahead and explore the rest of the site and find the other cringe-worthy jokes I have slipped into its pages.
Close this page immediately and continue on your search for your perfect therapy match. I wish you the best on that journey!
Entirely turned off by one or more of my values?
Click the button at the bottom of the page and go fill out that contact form ASAP. Seriously, why are you still reading this?? Go click it!!
Already utterly convinced that I'm your #TherapistGoals?
when the world comes crashing at your feet
it's okay to let others
help pick up the pieces
if we're present to take part in your happiness
when your circumstances are great
we are more than capable
of sharing your pain
[the sun and her flowers, 2017]
**Do the youths still use the word vibe?? No? Okay, cool cool cool cool cool.
Finding a therapist that you can be ~fully transparent~ with... Let's pretend I said that up there instead, okay?